10 things I wish I'd known sooner

3 September 2015


Just because you get something wrong, it doesn't mean it's the end of the world. We're only human and mistakes are going to happen. It's important to live, learn and grow, and sometimes errors are the way forward. Our biggest mistakes can often turn into our biggest successes.

Money spent on experiences are far better than money spent on 'things'. As much as we all like bags, clothes, and nice watches, saving that money for a holiday with your loved ones or spending a whole day paddleboarding and kayaking is a lot more fulfilling. Memories are so important.

Hangovers get worse with age. It's true. I'm not 18 anymore, and even though I don't drink or go out like I used to in my youth, I need to remember that my body isn't going to hold up as well as it used to. In fact, losing a whole day to a hangover is actually really annoying as I probably need to do adult things like chores and food prep.

Enjoy today as there may not be a tomorrow. I have unfortunately lost a couple of friends over the past years, and it's so important to live for now. Eat the burger, buy the shoes, go out when you know you probably shouldn't and tell people that you love them. Today is what matters.

Heartbreak is one of the worst pains you will ever go through and there is no way to sugarcoat that, but you will come out the other side eventually and it will make you more aware of what you want in a relationship.

Do not judge people until you've spoken to them personally. You do not know someone's journey until you've walked a mile in their shoes, and everyone deserves a fair chance. It's not nice to make your mind up based on initial thoughts or what someone else has said.

Confidence really can help you get where you want to be. If you struggle with confidence, fake it until you make it. You have nothing to lose by being bold and going for your dreams, and having some 'get go' and self-belief will help to make this happen.

Don't worry if you don't have your life all mapped out. Things can change and that's ok. Just see where the road takes you and enjoy it. I always remember Pocahontas and her choice between the two rivers whenever I'm unsure. They both have a different route and journey and who knows what's down there. Ultimately, it's your choice to make, but whatever happens, take it as it comes. Something amazing could be waiting!

The people who are meant to be in your life will make an effort to be there. I've wasted time on people who I wanted to be in my life, and they didn't make the effort. It will hurt, but move on. Those who value you will love and support you. You also don't need to see people every day to be close with friends.

You can do everything right, and things still might not go the way you had hoped. I have gotten down about this more times than I can remember. Always questioning why. I often find myself saying, 'But you're a good person Tamsin. I give to charity. Support family, friends..even strangers, try to give to the local community, put others before myself, stay true, honest and loyal to those I truly love...and things still don't go the way I want.' It might not seem it now, but it will all fall into place for you. Stay true to you.

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The Dancing Duck

1 September 2015

Bank holiday weekends mean food, drink, friends, family, more food, more drink, and even more food. Having been for my Sunday gym session, I felt like I could definitely fit in at least one more meal out. We decided to head down to The Dancing Duck in Westbourne for some grub. It only opened about two months ago as the sister of The Dancing Moose in Ashley Cross, and it's already buzzing and busy. Fortunately, my housemates ex-hubby is the manager there so he saved us a good spot and ordered some drinks in for us. It pays to get on with your old relationships ;)


Almost like someone's living room, there are cosy tables everywhere, a log burner ready for the winter and tables made out of old champagne and wine boxes. You can also hear some brilliant live music there making it a perfect place for a drink at the bar.


There's honestly something on the menu for everyone. I could have eaten pretty much anything. A mixture of burgers, chicken wings, hot dogs, salads and small tapas style dishes are what you have to choose from, and we basically picked a variety of everything.

First of all, we washed down pornstar martini's, complete with the prosecco shot.


Breadboard to start off with - warm brioche style sesame seeded bread with classic oil and balsamic vinegar. Flick and I were both wearing white so naturally, the kitchen roll came out in case of spillages. Classy ladies!


Chicken wings smothered in hot sauce, served with blue cheese dressing. They had a sauce called 'Suicide' which I was tempted to try as I love hot sauce, but thought I'd go for the normal 'hot' heat first. I'm definitely up for trying them next time!


Bigboy salad - lettuce, spinach, grilled peppers, sundried tomatoes, roasted prawns, chicken, bacon and chorizo with spiced creamy chilli dressing.


Scallops, calamari and grilled prawns with garlic aeoli and wedges of lemon. Not forgetting a few mugs of chips of course.


All finished off with the Moose Waffle to share - waffle topped with 3 scoops of ice cream, topped with whipped cream, toasted nuts and butternut sauce.


We all left with happy faces and rather tight waistlines.

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Training Log

31 August 2015

This week has been full of rainy runs, as demonstrated in my photo. My legs have been suffering this week..so..so badly and foam rolling has been my friend. Fortunately, one of my friends who's also a PT at my gym is qualified in foam rolling and has been teaching me all sorts of tips and tricks when it comes to stretching out my calves. If any runners have any wisdom in how to stop inner calf pain, please do share it with me! It's now less than 5 weeks until my half marathon, and 3 weeks until Spartan Race so the training needs to pick up now. One of my best friends Sara has also started up a new blog: 930 Miles. Having done the 3 Peaks Challenge, she has now set herself the task of cycling Land's End to John O'Groats and is documenting her training journey. Give it a read if you have time!


Monday 24th August
1 hour run

Tuesday 25th August
1 hour ballet class
5 x 10 lat pulls @ 40kg
5 x 10 barbell squat @ 50kg
5 x 10 deadlifts @ 50kg

Wednesday 26th August
30 minute run
1 hour LBT class

Thursday 27th August
30 mins core abs class
1 hour personal training

Friday 28th August
Off training

Saturday 29th August
30 minute run

Sunday 30th August
5 x 12 upward row @ 40kg
5 x 12 downward row @ 12kg
5 x 12 kettlebell push ups
5 x 10 TRX upward rows
5 x 10 seated rows @ 12kg
4 x Matrix 21 bicep curls @ 7kg
5 x 10 L sits

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Things I'm Excited For

30 August 2015

I had a pang of excitement yesterday knowing that the A/W season is on the way. Our Summer has been particularly rubbish, and even though Bournemouth is lucky and doesn't seem to have as much rain as other places, it's still been dreary and not much of the Summer vibes that you hope to have. Before I knew it, I was making up lists in my head of all the things that I've been looking forward to.


Winter clothes - I adore jumpers, jeans, boots and big knit scarves. I bought a new Winter coat yesterday and I'm now willing the weather to drop degrees to I can warrant wearing it!

Cold dog walks - Nothing brings a smile to my face like a cold dog walk. I love wrapping up warm in my gilet and feeling the cold sea air bounce off my cheeks before stopping for a hot chocolate somewhere to warm my bones.

Downton Abbey - I'm not quite ready to say goodbye to this series yet and I know I will be crying when it finishes. There's nothing quite like snuggling down on the sofa on a Sunday night to watch Lady Mary try to sort out her love life.

Winter running - I begrudgingly added this to my list. Training for the London Marathon means I will be running throughout the Winter, which means many cold mornings and rainy runs. Although it would be easy to resent this, I'm looking forward to the journey and the road to running those gruelling 26.2 miles.

Spartan Race - Somehow, and I'm not sure how, I will be doing Spartan Race in a few weeks time. To say that I am terrified is an understatement, however I know I will laugh my way through it. 8 miles and 15 obstacles..bring it on.

Dubai - I wouldn't be me if I didn't try and get away every few months, so I'm back off to Dubai in the Autumn to get some well deserved rest. I adore Dubai - it's not a place that everyone will love but if you're after guaranteed sun and relaxation, then you can't go wrong. Plus, I am a water baby and the water parks keep me more than happy.

What are you looking forward to?

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Sunrises and Paddleboarding

26 August 2015

On Saturday morning, I walked through the door at 7am. My housemate was up and like a parent jokingly said, 'And what time do you call this young lady?' It had been a rather crazy night. Drinks in one place moved onto drinks at another, which ended up in a karaoke bar and me singing a variety of songs including I Will Always Love You by Whitney Houston, and Don't Go Breaking My Heart with one of my best friends (I sung the part of Elton of course). Some Welsh people had befriended us and before we knew it, we were eating chicken at 4am and sitting by Bournemouth Pier with guitars and singing songs until the sun rose.


...which of course finished with us doing yoga on the beach at sunrise. And me being photobombed by said random Welsh guy.


After a 3 hour nap, Sara and I arose to find much needed food. A fry up in my local cafe Cool Beans did the trick, plus they're dog friendly which means Max is always in there with me. After filling our stomachs to be rid of the copious amounts of alcohol we had drunk the night before, we drove to Sandbanks in the sunshine to watch the Bournemouth Air Show from the sea on paddleboards. The sea was incredibly choppy but it made standing all the more fun, as we were being thrown off into the sea every couple of minutes.



Despite the waves, I even managed to secure one handstand on top of the paddleboard, although there is no photo evidence of this (damn it!). However, in the video below, you can see me attempting a few more goes and failing! Watching the planes from the sea was incredible. They looked like graceful birds swooping around from side to side, and the sound of the Vulcan nearly threw us from the paddleboards.



The following day, after another breakfast at Ludo Lounge (again, dog friendly so Max was on guard duty) Sara made her way home and I walked from Southbourne to Bournemouth with Max to catch the last day of the show. Torrential rain turned into blazing sunshine, just in time for the show to begin. The Red Arrows always go down well and are truly a symbol of Britain, but the Vulcan really stole the show. With her ample wingspan and ear bursting screech, you can hardly miss her. Unfortunately, she will be retired in a few months due to health and safety reasons, so it was wonderful to see her fly twice this weekend.




It was one of those weekends that don't come around very often. One where every moment, you're laughing and smiling. I needed one of these weekends and I'm so very glad it came along at the right time.

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